I’ve come out as atheist to college friends, two of my sisters and their husbands, and my parents. All of them were, and are, Christian, but even so, every conversation went differently. Most of these coming-out stories are documented here, and in the big picture, they went alright. They certainly could have gone much worse, but at the same time, I would not want to ever relive that time in my life. I had a list in my head of who knew and who didn’t know, and once I told someone and had that weight lifted, it was only so long until I would have to tell the next person.
If someone you know has just told you that they’re an atheist, just know that it was probably at least just as hard for them as it is for you. But there are a few things you can do that will make this time easier for everyone.
Continue reading “6 Things to Do If Someone Comes Out to You as Atheist”
Two and a half years ago, I told you, my readers, something that I had only ever told one person before.
I am an atheist. Continue reading “I’m Coming Out to You”
Not to outshine my wedding last Friday, this week marks my two-year blogiversary! While this is an exciting achievement, the way my life is going may cause this anniversary to mark the beginning of a few changes here at theclosetatheist.blog.
Continue reading “The Future of This Blog”
That’s Mrs. Closet Atheist to you!
I’m just kidding, except actually I’m not kidding because I JUST GOT MARRIED ON FRIDAY! Continue reading “Our Atheist Wedding”
Last week, I hit the milestone of my 100th post here on The Closet Atheist blog! I would have celebrated last week with this reminiscent post, but I had already written a post, and then written a whole new one instead, and then when it was all done on Saturday night at 12:30 a.m., I realized that it had been my hundredth one! So now, I am celebrating my 101st post by going through and sharing what have been my favorite posts to write and look back at throughout my almost two years here on WordPress. Continue reading “My 10 Favorite Blog Posts”
If you have been following my blog for a long time, then you probably remember that I started it for the purpose of venting my frustrations about attending a Christian college and living as a closeted atheist in a Lutheran household. My blog was my life story, as shown by my largest blog post-category being Personal Experiences with 28 posts, including my longest post ever, Coming Out to My Sister and Her Husband with 2012 words and my post popular post ever, Coming Out to My Mother, which reached nearly 700 views on the day it was published. Continue reading “10 Things You Didn’t Know About My Life”
I believe that religious deconversion is a process. Throughout this process, the person evolves. Some evolve more than others, and some endure the changes in more ways than one. For me, deconversion went like this: Christian → agnostic → atheist. My evolution underwent several transformational stages. In between Christian and agnostic, there was the initial period of doubt followed by a period of apathy. In between agnostic and atheist, there was curiosity and intrigue about general arguments regarding the existence of God. This intrigue made me very passionate about atheism itself. I have been engrossed in the interplay between religious and secular, reading about both to get the most precise answers I could. Continue reading “An Atheist’s Evolution”
After four long and miserable years, I finally escaped from this mind-prison of a school once and for all at my graduation on May 19th. As far as I am concerned, this college has achieved the opposite of its goal of “nurturing my walk with Christ.” Instead, it accidentally shaped me into the dedicated atheist that I am today. It was the pivotal point in my life that pushed me from agnosticism all the way to atheism, to this blog, and out of the closet. Continue reading “My Christian College Experience”
I know that one can control their being an atheist more than they could control being gay. We don’t have any control over our sexual orientation. But the control that we have over what we believe is more complex than “none at all”. In my opinion, I can control what I read and what information and arguments I choose to expose myself to. I can deliberate on what makes the most sense, or if I see some sense in both sides of an argument, I will usually choose to dig deeper on the topic until I find a more concrete answer. What I can’t control is what conclusion I come to. Continue reading “Is Atheism a Choice?”
I wrote in January about the events that led up to my untimely coming out conversation with my mother. First, my fiance’s and my “immoral” private life was leaked, which led to my family expecting us to stop and being appalled when we refused to apologize. This ended in me coming out to my mother as an atheist as a way to provide some explanation for why we didn’t play by her Lutheran rules. After talking to her and to my oldest sister, the wife of a pastor, my fiance and I safely assumed that her pastor-husband would have moral qualms, if not strict religious restrictions, from marrying together two dirty sinners such as the two of us, as had been our original plan. We informed him that we had decided to go a more secular way—getting married at our reception hall using a non-pastor officiant—to avoid this cognitive dissonance. Continue reading “Coming Out to My Sister and Her Husband”