During my last week at college, I found myself perusing through various Christian girl YouTube channels (I watch a lot of YouTube, and I find myself watching that from time to time… don’t judge me). Some are really terrible and drive me nuts—I won’t name any names, but, well, one of the worst offenders rhymes with Shmirl Shmefined. But that week I actually watched a lot of videos from a Christian girl my age who I really liked and found myself being drawn to for how honest and down to earth she was.
You may have seen this girl before; if you watch any of Rachel Oates videos, she was featured in this video. Her name is Becca, and her channel is called Far Away Distance. For the most part, she is your typical Christian YouTuber, but I think that there is a lot that sets her apart from more hateful or judgmental Christians (like this girl). Her channel has taught me some things about how to understand a different perspective despite our differences.
I’ve always thought I know pretty well where Christians are coming from. I’m able to put myself in their shoes due to everyone I know (except for my fiance) being Christian, being raised Christian, and just being open-minded in general. I know most of the basic reasons for believing, I took apologetics class, and when that taught me nothing I read a couple of apologetics books. I think I understand what it is like to be a Christian as much as I can without having ever truly been one. However, I still can’t force myself to believe, because the person that I am just needs evidence. Faith alone doesn’t cut it for me. I can’t understand the feelings-based, emotional side of Christianity because I can’t get past logic-based arguments like how the bible got the age of the earth all wrong.
But watching Becca’s videos somehow allowed me to see what exactly people are thinking within their Christian faith. This is something that ex-Christian YouTuber Genetically Modified Skeptic understands more than I do, but the relationship that people claim to have with God has a romantic-sounding vibe to me. I obviously don’t have anything like this, and usually when people would describe it, I thought they were crazy. Seeing how Becca’s faith affects her life helped me get what it was actually like. If I were to describe it in terms that I, as an atheist, understand, it is as if she takes all of the positive parts of life, like lucky little things or good opportunities or great friends, and personifies God as the source of them all. Of course Christianity comes in many different stripes and colors, but I think her version is nice and optimistic.
There is more about Becca’s channel that I really liked, though. I think that, similarly to me, she is doing her best to understand the other side. She has an entire series on her channel of proposing objections to belief in God and her responses to them, called Why I Believe in God. My favorite video on her channel, however, is this one:
In this video, Becca shows that she actually cares about people, even if they’re not Christian. I know that a lot of Christians obviously aren’t super judgmental, but most of the students at my college, and most of the Christians that I know, are. Becca even expresses her disappointment with this cultural norm with the anecdote that an atheist she knew was treated as an outcast by classmates at their Christian college.
I’ve always thought that one of the best judges of character is how someone treats those who disagree with or are different from them, and most Christian YouTubers I have seen generally show atheists as people not to be associated with, and many Christians I know are so, so sweet, but only to other Christians. Their love comes with a list of criteria.
I don’t know this girl personally. I have never tried commenting on her videos, so I don’t know if she theoretically would try to silence and judge me the way that the girl from my Hypocritical Christian post did. From what I have seen so far, however, Becca is one of those people that gives me hope that believers and nonbelievers can not only get along but understand each other despite their differences.
Update: we’ve been talking in DMs and she is actually as sweet as she sounds and seemed so genuinely interested to talk to me! 😁