If you have been following my blog for a long time, then you probably remember that I started it for the purpose of venting my frustrations about attending a Christian college and living as a closeted atheist in a Lutheran household. My blog was my life story, as shown by my largest blog post-category being Personal Experiences with 28 posts, including my longest post ever, Coming Out to My Sister and Her Husband with 2012 words and my post popular post ever, Coming Out to My Mother, which reached nearly 700 views on the day it was published.
But since the beginning of the summer, I haven’t really talked about my life at all. It’s been all book reviews and random thoughts I’ve had regarding atheism, religion, and related topics. Fascinating and dramatic as it tends to be, I still don’t have any juicy gossip about my life today, but I do have several small life updates that can get you all caught up, if you care to know more about my life that once resembled a soap opera. Here’s what you missed:
- My brother-in-law found my blog in the end of July. At first I panicked, because he said he was going to tell my sister about it. (To this day, I still don’t know if my sister or the rest of my family has been reading my blog posts, but if so . . . hi guys!) If you were wondering why I temporarily made my Twitter private, that’s why. I thought I would have to change my entire blog, but I ended up keeping it the same.
- I’m still living at home and probably will until I get married in November. It’s actually my own choice, though, based on various job-location, job-search, and apartment-search factors. According to my older sisters, my mom had been expecting me to move in with my fiance and wouldn’t have a problem with it (as they said, cohabitation is nothing next to premarital sex and atheism). The most premarital cohabitation there would be wouldn’t be for long.
- I stopped going to church entirely. When I first told my mom, she yelled at me and I thought that we were going to have another “talk”, but the talk never came. I’m still kind of surprised that in the end, quitting church was so easy, but I’m glad. My mom doesn’t even seem to mind. I mean, I’ve been working every Sunday morning since, which isn’t that exciting or fun, but hey—at least I’m not being told I’ll burn in hell for all eternity.
- Speaking of church, I’m not having my wedding at my church, or any church at all. We’re having the ceremony in the reception hall with a secular officiant. My whole family (well, most of it—I’ll get to that momentarily) knows that it’s because we are both atheists, but I’m sure some of our guests will be confused, and possibly even outraged. Too bad it’s none of their business whether we want to get married in a church or not!
- I still have to come out to my dad. He still thinks we are having our ceremony at our church. We could just give our typical excuse (we want it to be short and sweet so we’re having the whole thing at one location), but I figured my own dad should know I’m an atheist sooner or later, so coming out yet again isn’t something I’m looking forward to.
- I’ve been considering coming out on my personal Facebook and Instagram accounts, but I might just do it after my wedding. I don’t need my day to be ruined by relatives and friends telling me how disappointed they are in me. I’d like to come out on social media because I feel strange about seeing my friends posting hateful things about gays and atheists without knowing that one of their own friends is an atheist. I just want an equal opportunity to speak my mind, I suppose.
- I had my wedding shower in my church basement, which wasn’t a problem, although I was slightly irritated at all the Answers in Genesis pamphlets that were sitting out on a table. My fiance tried to throw them in the garbage, but I just hid them under a binder for the duration of the party. I know Ken Ham’s pseudo-scientific claims can practically disprove themselves, but I didn’t need to be responsible for exposing anyone to that nonsense.
- I ordered some The Closet Atheist business cards that I’m thinking of hiding in the atheist books at different bookstores that I visit. Maybe some of you will find them!
- Soon I plan to start a new series in which I respond to some LCMS teachings on creationism and evolution. I doubt anything can be quite as ridiculous as the book I reviewed by Prof Dave, but I guess we’ll find out!
- My fiance and I have something really exciting in the works for this blog coming this winter. It’s too early to give anything away, but it’s coming. Feel free to guess what it is in the comments, though.